Family Character and Family Religion: Family Religion

Genesis 11  •  9 min. read  •  grade level: 8
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Among the sons of Noah, religion was connected with Shem rather than with his brothers, and from him came the separated people.
In the progress of a few generations, however, this religious family became corrupt; for in less than three hundred years (and we know not how much earlier) we find them serving other gods (Josh. 24:22And Joshua said unto all the people, Thus saith the Lord God of Israel, Your fathers dwelt on the other side of the flood in old time, even Terah, the father of Abraham, and the father of Nachor: and they served other gods. (Joshua 24:2)). This is a common history even to this day. Families, as well as churches, are seen in a sadly degenerate and corrupt condition, though once they were known for their zeal and service.
The Spirit of God, however, in the sovereignty of grace, visits a son of Terah, of the 8th generation from Shem. The call of the God of glory came to Abram and separated him from those corruptions, and from country and kindred and his father's house, to fashion him as a new piece of workmanship for the Lord (Acts 7:22And he said, Men, brethren, and fathers, hearken; The God of glory appeared unto our father Abraham, when he was in Mesopotamia, before he dwelt in Charran, (Acts 7:2)).
Abram, it appears, made this call known to his family and, as is often seen to this day among ourselves, this communication has a certain influence among them. Family religion springs from this.
The power of the gospel is known at first by one member, and from thence it spreads. And the Lord would have it so. It is a bad symptom, as we may see presently, where this does not take place.
So here. Terah, the father, gets: ready. Nahor, one of his sons we may presume from the whole narrative, was not much under this influence; for he, his wife and children, all abide where they were. But Abram and his wife, and Lot (the son of Terah's deceased son Haran) set out on the divinely appointed journey. Terah, the father, apparently takes the lead (chapter 11:31).
But ere I go farther with this narrative I would ask, Was all this entirely right on Abram's part? The call had been to him. On him the energy of the Spirit had come. Within the range of that energy or influence the family, it is true, may be brought; but still, did it not belong to Abram to fill that place which divine energy had manifestly assigned him? Was there not some conferring with flesh and blood on Abram's part ere Terah was allowed to take the lead in this great movement under the Spirit of God? I rather judge that there was, and that this has to account for the delay at Haran, and for the death of Terah there, and for the putting forth of a second energy from the Lord in calling Abram from Haran (chapters 11:31; 12:1).
This is all admonitory to us. Family religion is beautiful, but family order or human claims are not to assume the rights of the Spirit. It is beautiful to see Cornelius, or any other in like circumstances, bringing his friends and kindred within that influence which was visiting his house; but if flesh and blood, or human relationship, disturb the sovereign progress of the Spirit, we may expect a halt at Haran, at the half way house, and the need of a second call-in some sense a second -to set the soul in the path of God afresh.
We may mark and distinguish these things for profit and admonition. However, under the renewed energy of the Spirit Abram renews his journey, and Sarah his wife, and Lot his orphan nephew, accompany him. It is a scene of family religion still. And in Lot we see one who was within the general or family influence. We read of no distinct call on him, or of any sacrifice from him. Not that he represents a mere professor, or one who attaches himself to the people of God for some selfish end. No; he was a "righteous man," and had a living soul that could be, and was, vexed with the wickedness of the wicked (2 Pet. 2:88(For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds;) (2 Peter 2:8)). But his entrance into the household of faith expresses no energy. It was effected in a family way, as I have been observing-as a thousand cases in our own day. And good such things are. It is happy when Sarah the wife, or Terah the father, or Lot the nephew of these latter days will go along with our Abrams. This would not be, we know, without the drawing and teaching of the Father. And Lot was as surely elect of God as Abram. But the energy of the call of God is not manifested in him as in Abram-distinctions which we cannot fail to mark continually. It was a personal thing characteristically with Abram; it was a family thing characteristically with Lot. And according to all this, in the very first scene in which Lot was called to act in a personal or independent way, we see his weakness.
Abram gives him the choice of the land. And he makes a choice. Now it is not merely in his choosing the goodliest that our hearts condemn him, but in his making a choice at all. In every respect Abram had title to have the first choice, as we speak. He was the elder, both in years and relationship. He was principal in all that action which had drawn them to this distant land, and Lot was but, as it were, attached to him. Noble it was in Abram, and generous, in surrendering his right to his younger. But Lot was insensible to all this, and he undertakes to make the choice, and then (naturally in the course of such a beginning) he chooses on an entirely worldly principle. He takes the well-watered plain for his flocks and his herds, although that took him near the defiled city (chapter 13).
This first trial of Lot is thus a painful witness against him. It argues the weakness in which faith or the kingdom of God had been held in his soul. Abram's way was very different, for the voice of the God of glory had been powerfully heard by him, detaching him from that world to which Lot was still adhering. And all this has language in our ears to which we are to take heed.
It is soon discovered what a disappointing world Lot was choosing. The well-watered plain soon becomes a field of battle; and had it not been for Abram, or Abram's God, Lot would have lost his liberty there, and all his possessions.
But it is still more sad that this first disappointment does not free his heart from its unholy attachment. He takes up with Sodom a second time, till he is forced to remove by the hand of God Himself. When the watered plain became a field of slaughter, and Lot still refused to learn its character and to leave it, he must learn it by its becoming burning heaps in the day of the Lord.
Melancholy catastrophe! Shameful end of an earthly-minded believer! What a voice for us in all this! Here was a saving "so as by fire"-a running out of a house in flames, an inglorious departure from the world! We may lay the admonition to heart, and watch against the first look toward the watered plains of Sodom.
In the whole of this we indeed get great lessons, whether of comfort or of warning. It tells us that family religion is a beautiful thing, and that true godliness may begin in that way as in Abram's house. But it admonishes each one of us to take good care to cultivate godliness in a very personal way, lest our religion have the weakness of a mere general or family influence, and in a little season leave us stranded by the way.
Under Abram, family religion, as I was observing, did spread, but not under Lot; for his wife continued with the mind of Sodom in her, and is made a beacon light to warn passengers on their way, to this hour. His two daughters defile themselves and become the parents of two such corrupt seeds as are under special prohibition as to any place in God's house (Deut. 23:33An Ammonite or Moabite shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to their tenth generation shall they not enter into the congregation of the Lord for ever: (Deuteronomy 23:3)), and his sons-in-law, when he spoke to them of judgment, profanely thought that he was a trifler or a fool.
Here surely is serious matter for our souls to consider. If our religion or profession of Christ have but sprung up under the influence of a family atmosphere, we have warning here to watch and cultivate personal godliness in holy fear of the weakness of such a plant.
But again, if our profession of Christ has not, as with Abram spread an influence in the family, we have great reason to be humbled, and to fear that it is because, like Lot, we have not in our own person the faith in its separating and victorious power.
Lessons of serious and holy importance on the subject of family religion are in that way read to us by this little history. It tells us that we ought to be the means of spreading the knowledge of God; and if we lack in this, there is reason to suspect the moral condition of our soul. The unerring Spirit says, "Let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another"; and as to the family's upbringing it says, "Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in
the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Family religion is thus honored by the Lord, but the thorough and the personal power of it is also assisted. The fathers to the children are to make known the truth (Isa. 38:1919The living, the living, he shall praise thee, as I do this day: the father to the children shall make known thy truth. (Isaiah 38:19)), though each one must be born again or he cannot see the kingdom of God.
It is beautiful to see the "unfeigned faith" dwelling in one generation after another of the same family, as in the grandmother Lois, the mother Eunice, and the child Timothy; but it is beautiful also to read in the third of those family generations the tears and the affections which give the full persuasion that their religion is not a mere imitative or educational one-the mere catching of a family influence-but the precious inwrought power of a kingdom which God Himself has set up in the soul.
"Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and His strength, and His wonderful works that He hath done." (Psalm 78:3, 43Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. 4We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the Lord, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. (Psalm 78:3‑4)).