The Divine Pattern

“Cease  ...  to hear the instruction that causeth to err from the words of knowledge.” Proverbs 19:2727Cease, my son, to hear the instruction that causeth to err from the words of knowledge. (Proverbs 19:27)
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3
“Dear Christian mother, do not listen to the advice of the world, nor even to that of some Christians who reject ‘the counsel of God against themselves’ (Luke 7:3030But the Pharisees and lawyers rejected the counsel of God against themselves, being not baptized of him. (Luke 7:30)) because it condemns them. It is your wisdom to seek grace to fulfill the place of a helpmeet (not of the head) which God has given you in the home. It is a wonderful place. Even if your husband should fail in fulfilling his place as head, ask the Lord for grace to fulfill your place. Your husband’s failure does not change your place of responsibility, not does it change his. He needs your help and prayers. Faultfinding and blaming your husband will not straighten matters out or help to build up your home. Such actions will only end up tearing it down (Prov. 14:11Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. (Proverbs 14:1)). How much we need the grace and strength which comes from the Lord, especially when difficulties come up in the home. It is vital to stick to the divine pattern.
“There may be some who read these lines who have unsaved husbands. The Lord will give you the wisdom and strength you need if you look to Him, so that, as Peter says, ‘If any obey not the Word, they also may without the Word be won by the conversation of the wives’ (1 Peter 3:1).”
— Gordon Hayhoe. “A Word to Mothers” The Christian Jan. 2010. Adapted.