Just as there was a proper order and progression in God's creation of the physical world, so there should be an orderly, stable development in a romance. "God is not the author of confusion"—not in His creation of the universe, and not in the divine principles which He gives to guide a courtship.
So often, the "on again-off again" romances typical of western society are filled with more problems, contentions, and strife, than joy. Christian courtship isn't to be like some cheap soap opera. The principles God gives, if followed by two believers in their romance, will bring joy, growing love, confidence, and stability.
If a young person whose heart is attracted to another is uncertain as to whether those feelings are mutually shared by that special person a lot of distress will result. How much anxiety and unhappiness is caused by a lack of confidence in the affections or intentions of the partner in a courtship!
Keep the spirit of worldly romances tainted by flirting, jealousy, uncertainty and unfaithfulness out of your courtship. "Come out from among them and be separate" (2 Cor. 6:1717Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, (2 Corinthians 6:17)). Such godless and defiling actions as practiced in worldly relationships have no part in the beautiful fabric that comprises a true Christian romance.