(Chapters 1-9)
Twelve Lessons of Wisdom in a Household
(Vss. 1-7)
Verses 1-7 are an introduction to the book. The first verse is the title of this section. We will get similar statements throughout the book marking its various divisions.
Ten Things Gained by Applying the Wisdom of the Proverbs
(Vss. 2-4)
Verses 2-4 give the purpose of Solomon’s proverbs. Ten things are mentioned in these verses indicating what we will get if we apply the wisdom in this book.
Wisdom—knowledge used rightly.
Instruction—knowledge acquired through chastening & discipline.
Understanding—knowledge acquired through consideration.
Instruction of wisdom—knowledge acquired through walking circumspectly.
Righteousness (Justice)—right conduct & behaviour.
Judgment—discernment.
Equity—unbiased moral integrity.
Prudence (Subtlety)—ability to detect craftiness in others.
Knowledge—useful information.
Discretion—thoughtfulness in application.
Two Needed Things
(Vss. 5-7)
Verses 5-7 speak of two things that are necessary on our part to gain the wisdom taught in the book of Proverbs:
Firstly, there must be a willingness to learn (vss. 5-6).
Secondly, there must be reverential fear of the Lord (vs. 7).
A person may be exposed to the greatest wisdom from the most gifted teachers, but he won’t profit from it if there isn’t a willingness to learn and a fear of the Lord in his life. Our lives will show whether we fear the Lord by whether or not we apply these practical principles of His Word.
Various Ways to Learn
There are, perhaps, three ways of learning the lessons of life:
First, we can learn from our mistakes. We can walk in the way that we think is best and learn the lessons of life from experience—most of which will probably be sorrowful. This, of course, is not an advisable method, because we can make a mess out of our lives pretty quickly, and we will be left to carry the effects of our failures for the rest of our lives.
A second way of learning the lessons of life is to learn from other people’s mistakes. This is better, because we do not suffer the effects of their failures in our own lives.
Thirdly, the best way to learn life’s lessons is from the Word of God. This is the happiest way. But it requires willingness to receive what the Word says and reverence for Who it is that has written those things. Someone put it this way: happy is the man who learns from his mistakes; happier still is he who learns from other people’s mistakes, but the happiest of all is he who learns from the principles in the Word of God.
Twelve Father/Mother-to-Son Discourses
It appears that there are 12 lessons in this section of the book. They are 12 father/mother-to-son discourses—each beginning with the words, “My son.” (There are a couple of places where the expression appears in the middle of a lesson. The context will show that it is not a new lesson but part of the one in discussion. In J. N. Darby’s Translation there is an “em” dash (—) indicating that it is a continuation of the forgoing, i.e., chapters 1:15; 6:3). The setting is a godly home where the parents are seen guiding and instructing their son in the issues of life. The lessons are parental advice and counsel aimed at preparing him for life. They are primarily concerned with helping their son (or daughter) make the right decisions in life.
This section (chapters 1-9) is very applicable for parents who want to know what they should be teaching their children in preparing them for life. The substance of these 12 discourses is what every godly parent should teach his or her children. Of course, these lessons are also applicable to young people starting out in life. Such are referred to in the book as “the simple” (Prov. 1:44To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion. (Proverbs 1:4)). This is not a derogatory term; it’s not speaking of someone who lacks mental powers, but rather, of one who is inexperienced in life i.e., naïve. If a young person, therefore, wants to have good success in life, both morally and spirituality, as well as practically, he needs to apply himself to learning these lessons and thus prove the blessing of God.
If someone has not been privileged to have God-fearing parents who will give him sound practical and spiritual advice in the matters of life, he can take up these chapters, putting himself in the place of this young man, and can profit from the very same lessons.
1) Regard for the Parents’ Advice
(Vss. 8-9)
“My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law [teaching] of thy mother: for they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck” (Prov. 1:8-98My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother: 9For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck. (Proverbs 1:8‑9)). Regard for the parents’ advice is the first, and perhaps, the most important lesson. If confidence in the parent’s knowledge of the matters of life is not established, the children will not likely take to heart any of the other lessons the parents have to teach. This means that the parents need to gain the ear of their children at the earliest possible age, and thus, begin teaching them these important lessons (Deut. 6:6-7, 11:18-21; Psa. 78:2-72I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: 3Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. 4We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the Lord, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. 5For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: 6That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: 7That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments: (Psalm 78:2‑7); Prov. 4:1-41Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. 2For I give you good doctrine, forsake ye not my law. 3For I was my father's son, tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother. 4He taught me also, and said unto me, Let thine heart retain my words: keep my commandments, and live. (Proverbs 4:1‑4); Isa. 38:1919The living, the living, he shall praise thee, as I do this day: the father to the children shall make known thy truth. (Isaiah 38:19)).
Every young person growing up in a God-fearing home needs to understand that their parents have their best interests at heart. There are many pitfalls and dangers that a young person could slip into if they’re not wary. They should be thankful to have someone to guide them in the paths of life. Young people need to recognize that their parents have experienced more in life than they have, and that they can offer valuable insight and guidance in the matters of life. Good parental advice is indispensable to the young and inexperienced.
Oftentimes, young people think that their father and mother’s understanding of the world and advice is outdated: But they are mistaken. Surely, we cannot be so naïve as to think that because our parents don’t speak about the defiling things they have seen and heard in this wicked world that they don’t know about it! (Eph. 5:11-1211And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. 12For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret. (Ephesians 5:11‑12)) Wisdom would tell us to shield our children from such things. Parents who have failed in certain areas of their lives do their children no favour by talking about it in front of them—whether it’s of their pre-conversion sins, or of failures after they have been saved. They are only setting a stumbling block before them. If the children know that their parents did such things, they might be inclined to think that since dad or mom did it, then they can do it too; because, after all, they turned out OK. How careful we must be! If a person keeps re-visiting their sins, and talking about them, it makes one wonder if they have truly judged them. Such are only glorying in their shame (Phil. 3:1919Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.) (Philippians 3:19)).
The ninth verse poetically describes the moral beauty and dignity that young people will have if they follow their parents’ advice. However, the person who will not listen to his or her parents is headed for trouble.
2) The Danger of Bad Companions
(Vss. 10-15)
“My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause: let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit: we shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil: cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse: my son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path” (Prov. 1:10-1510My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. 11If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause: 12Let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit: 13We shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil: 14Cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse: 15My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path: (Proverbs 1:10‑15)).
The second thing that must be taught children in the home is separation from evil. There is a great danger in having bad companions, and this needs to be taught at a very young age. Therefore, the focus of this lesson is aimed at understanding the powerful influence of friends.
The picture portrayed here is a street corner gang enticing a young person to join them in some evil pursuit. The issues of peer pressure were as real 3000 years ago as they are today! We may not be tempted in such a blatant form of evil as the one portrayed here, but the likelihood of it will present itself at some time by associating with people who do not know the Lord as their Saviour. The lesson here, is to say “No.” The son is told, “Consent thou not.” To say “No” may be difficult at times, because every young person naturally wants to be accepted. It will take moral character and courage. The courage of conviction must be taught in the home.
The Bible says, “I am a companion of all them that fear Thee, and of them that keep Thy precepts” (Ps. 119:63). There are two qualifications for good companionship in this verse:
Then, secondly, we are to be a companion of those who want to obey the smallest details (“precepts”) of God’s Word. These are the kinds of friends we are to have. All others must be kept at arm’s length.
Why Separation is Important
Young people will want to know why they must walk in separation from the world. The reasons for separation should be explained to them so that they can intelligently understand the importance of walking in such a path. When they understand why, they will be more inclined to do so. Parents can’t just say, “Well, the brethren believe in separation.” The truth is, God believes in separation! He insists on it as a means of preservation for His people. It is found on the first page of our Bibles (Gen. 1:44And God saw the light, that it was good: and God divided the light from the darkness. (Genesis 1:4)), and it continues to be emphasized throughout the inspired Word to the last page (Rev. 22:1111He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still. (Revelation 22:11)). It is vital that all in the family understand this principle, and it’s the responsibility of the parents to teach it.
Parents are to teach their children separation, not so much by telling them, but by showing them! If they do not walk in separation themselves, they cannot expect their children to do so. If Manoah and his wife were to raise a godly Nazarite son, the mother of the child was to live like a Nazarite herself! (Judg. 13:4-5, 13-144Now therefore beware, I pray thee, and drink not wine nor strong drink, and eat not any unclean thing: 5For, lo, thou shalt conceive, and bear a son; and no razor shall come on his head: for the child shall be a Nazarite unto God from the womb: and he shall begin to deliver Israel out of the hand of the Philistines. (Judges 13:4‑5)
13And the angel of the Lord said unto Manoah, Of all that I said unto the woman let her beware. 14She may not eat of any thing that cometh of the vine, neither let her drink wine or strong drink, nor eat any unclean thing: all that I commanded her let her observe. (Judges 13:13‑14)).
We might ask, “Why exactly do we need separation in our lives?”
Because we can’t enjoy fellowship with the Lord and with the world at the same time! It will have to be one or the other. The two things are totally incompatible (James 4:44Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. (James 4:4)). 1 John 2:1515Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. (1 John 2:15) says: “If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” Fellowship and communion with our God and Father is to be prized above all else in our lives. There are numerous examples of this point in the Scriptures. The bride in Song of Solomon tried to enjoy “Him whom my soul loveth” while she took her ease and walked in “the broad ways” of “the streets” of “the city,” but it didn’t work. She lost his company (Song of Sol. 3:1-21By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not. 2I will rise now, and go about the city in the streets, and in the broad ways I will seek him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not. (Song of Solomon 3:1‑2)). When Abraham went to Egypt (a type of the world), he didn’t have his altar, which speaks of the soul’s link of communion with God (Gen. 12:10; 13:410And there was a famine in the land: and Abram went down into Egypt to sojourn there; for the famine was grievous in the land. (Genesis 12:10)
4Unto the place of the altar, which he had made there at the first: and there Abram called on the name of the Lord. (Genesis 13:4)). He learned that he couldn’t have the Lord and Egypt at the same time.
Because enjoying the world’s pleasures and entertainments deteriorates our affection for Christ! Ephraim joined himself to the idols of the world (Hos. 4:1717Ephraim is joined to idols: let him alone. (Hosea 4:17)) and mixed himself among worldly people [“peoples”], (Hos. 7:88Ephraim, he hath mixed himself among the people; Ephraim is a cake not turned. (Hosea 7:8)) – and it took his heart away from the Lord (Hos. 4:11; 7:1111Whoredom and wine and new wine take away the heart. (Hosea 4:11)
11Ephraim also is like a silly dove without heart: they call to Egypt, they go to Assyria. (Hosea 7:11)). The children of Israel desired to eat the “cucumbers, and the melons, and the leeks, and the onions, and the garlick” of Egypt, and the effect was to dry up their soul’s taste for the “manna,” which is a type of Christ (Num. 11:5-65We remember the fish, which we did eat in Egypt freely; the cucumbers, and the melons, and the leeks, and the onions, and the garlick: 6But now our soul is dried away: there is nothing at all, beside this manna, before our eyes. (Numbers 11:5‑6)). It brought leanness to their souls. Those who feed upon the world’s entertainments generally have little interest in the things of the Lord. The world squeezes its way into our lives like the thin edge of the wedge, and slowly, but surely, displaces our affection for the Lord and our interest in His things.
Because we will get corrupted and defiled by the world’s ways and morals! The Bible says, “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners” (1 Cor. 15:3333Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. (1 Corinthians 15:33)). Whether we like to admit it or not, we are affected by those with whom we associate. We all have an effect upon one another in some way, as the Scripture says, “None of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself” (Rom. 14:77For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. (Romans 14:7)). The children of Israel were warned not to link themselves with the nations of the land of Canaan, because that would surely turn their hearts away from the Lord (Deut. 7:1-41When the Lord thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou; 2And when the Lord thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor show mercy unto them: 3Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. 4For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the Lord be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly. (Deuteronomy 7:1‑4)). Association with the world has a way of desensitizing one’s morals. In Proverbs, we are warned not to make friendship with an angry man because we will inadvertently “learn his ways” (Prov. 22:24-25; 13:2024Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: 25Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. (Proverbs 22:24‑25)
20He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. (Proverbs 13:20)). By living in Sodom, Lot’s moral values deteriorated to the level of the men of Sodom. He offered his daughters to the wicked men of the city! (Gen. 19:88Behold now, I have two daughters which have not known man; let me, I pray you, bring them out unto you, and do ye to them as is good in your eyes: only unto these men do nothing; for therefore came they under the shadow of my roof. (Genesis 19:8)).
Because partaking of the pleasures of the world will cause us to lose our discernment! When that is the case, we’ll be drawn further into things of the world. Ephraim mixed himself with the world and he lost his (spiritual) strength, but he didn’t know it because he had become insensible (Hos. 7:8-98Ephraim, he hath mixed himself among the people; Ephraim is a cake not turned. 9Strangers have devoured his strength, and he knoweth it not: yea, gray hairs are here and there upon him, yet he knoweth not. (Hosea 7:8‑9)). Proverbs 23:29-3529Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes? 30They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. 31Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his color in the cup, when it moveth itself aright. 32At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder. 33Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things. 34Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast. 35They have stricken me, shalt thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again. (Proverbs 23:29‑35), warns of the person who indulges in wine (type of the intoxicating pleasures of the world). One of the results of it was that when people would beat him (to correct him) he didn’t feel it! Samson linked himself with one who was not a child of God (Delilah), and he lost his discernment and disclosed the secret of his Nazariteship. He “wist not” that his strength was gone from him (Judg. 16:2020And she said, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And he awoke out of his sleep, and said, I will go out as at other times before, and shake myself. And he wist not that the Lord was departed from him. (Judges 16:20)). It’s very solemn to note that when the Babylonians (a type of the world) conquered God’s people in the land of Israel they cut out the eyes of Zedekiah (2 Ki. 25:77And they slew the sons of Zedekiah before his eyes, and put out the eyes of Zedekiah, and bound him with fetters of brass, and carried him to Babylon. (2 Kings 25:7)). This speaks of the loss of discernment.
Because by walking in fellowship with the world we’ll lose our power in testimony! The Christian who walks in separation from the world will render a powerful testimony to the world (Acts 4:3333And with great power gave the apostles witness of the resurrection of the Lord Jesus: and great grace was upon them all. (Acts 4:33)). But if he walks in fellowship with the world, he loses his power to witness to it. Again, Lot is an example. He lived in Sodom, and when he sought to witness to his sons-in-law, his testimony “seemed as one that mocked” (Gen. 19:1414And Lot went out, and spake unto his sons in law, which married his daughters, and said, Up, get you out of this place; for the Lord will destroy this city. But he seemed as one that mocked unto his sons in law. (Genesis 19:14)). They thought he was joking, and thus, didn’t take him seriously.
Two Parts to Our Separation
Mere knowledge of the truth of separation, however clear and understandable that it is presented to our children, will not, in itself, give them the power to walk in that path. If it is merely a list of things that we shouldn’t do, they may rebel against it. It will be seen as being a dry and legal thing that only hinders a person from having a good time. This is because a life emptied of worldliness is still empty and needs something to fill it. The heart must have a proper object—Christ. If we are not enjoying Christ, separation will be a dreary thing. It’s not what one knows that controls his life—it’s what he enjoys.
There is, therefore, the necessity to present to the family the two parts of separation—our separation to the Lord, and our separation from the world. This is seen in a number of places in the Word of God. For instance, the children of Israel were to journey away from Rameses (Egypt), which brings before us separation from the world (Ex. 12:3737And the children of Israel journeyed from Rameses to Succoth, about six hundred thousand on foot that were men, beside children. (Exodus 12:37)), but they were also to surrender their firstborn to the Lord, which speaks of our separation to God (Ex. 13:1-21And the Lord spake unto Moses, saying, 2Sanctify unto me all the firstborn, whatsoever openeth the womb among the children of Israel, both of man and of beast: it is mine. (Exodus 13:1‑2)). Another example is in the Nazarite who was to separate himself “unto the LORD,” and also “from wine and strong drink,” etc. (Num. 6:2-32Speak unto the children of Israel, and say unto them, When either man or woman shall separate themselves to vow a vow of a Nazarite, to separate themselves unto the Lord: 3He shall separate himself from wine and strong drink, and shall drink no vinegar of wine, or vinegar of strong drink, neither shall he drink any liquor of grapes, nor eat moist grapes, or dried. (Numbers 6:2‑3)). You see it again in the clothing that the “virtuous woman” made for her family. She clothed her household in “double garments” (Prov. 31:2121She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. (Proverbs 31:21) – margin). It speaks of an inner separation to God, and an outer separation from the elements of the world. If we have separated ourselves to the Lord and are found enjoying fellowship with Him, the path of separation from the world will be not drudgery; it will be happy liberty. The more we walk with God and have fellowship with Him, the more we will see the true character of the world and not want it. We’ll see the world as God sees it—as it is presented in the Word of God—as an enemy of our souls that can spoil our enjoyment of Christ.
Therefore, the home must have the burnt offering (a type of Christ) in it—Christ as the central object set before the children. This is the side of separation that is to the Lord. Manoah is our example (Judg. 13:19-2319So Manoah took a kid with a meat offering, and offered it upon a rock unto the Lord: and the angel did wondrously; and Manoah and his wife looked on. 20For it came to pass, when the flame went up toward heaven from off the altar, that the angel of the Lord ascended in the flame of the altar. And Manoah and his wife looked on it, and fell on their faces to the ground. 21But the angel of the Lord did no more appear to Manoah and to his wife. Then Manoah knew that he was an angel of the Lord. 22And Manoah said unto his wife, We shall surely die, because we have seen God. 23But his wife said unto him, If the Lord were pleased to kill us, he would not have received a burnt offering and a meat offering at our hands, neither would he have showed us all these things, nor would as at this time have told us such things as these. (Judges 13:19‑23)). He had the fragrance of the offering of the Lord in his house. It was the atmosphere in which he and his wife raised their Nazarite son (Samson) for the Lord.
Wisdom Speaks in the Streets
(Vss. 20-23)
The parents turn to speak of wisdom that cries without “in the streets” (vs. 20-23). The son was to learn from their wise counsel in the household, but he was also to learn from observing the ways of “the simple ones” in the world. This is “the instruction of wisdom” (vs. 3) where one learns from observing the failures of others.
“Wisdom,” in this first section of Proverbs, is personified. We will see in chapter 8 that it is a divine Person, the Son of God Himself. He is presented in the feminine form because we are to take hold of Wisdom affectionately.
The Disaster of Neglecting Wisdom
(Vss. 24-33)
In the latter part of the chapter we see that wisdom can be learned in a third way—in the school of hard knocks (vs. 24-33). It is not advisable, but we can learn through the disciplines of the governmental dealings of God in our lives, but it is very painful.
Notwithstanding, some self-confident Christians think that they can get along without Wisdom, but they pay the price for it in the end. Every man is at liberty to make his own choices in life, but we are not free to choose the consequences of our choices. This is a solemn warning for those who think that they can go along with the world and not be affected by it. It is not that God will literally “laugh” at the calamity of fools (vs. 26); it is rather, the laugh of poetic justice. The point is, that if you violate certain principles of God they will come around in the end to mock you. Fools will inevitably reap the harvest of their folly (Gal. 6:7-87Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. (Galatians 6:7‑8)). “Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way” (vs. 31). The “prosperity” [“complacency”] of fools will destroy them in the end (vs. 32). May we be warned!
3) Implementing Reading & Prayer in Our Lives
(Chapter 2)
Diligent Reading of The Scriptures
(Vss. 1-2)
As the son grows, the parents teach him another lesson—the importance of reading and prayer. “My son, if thou wilt receive My words, and hide My commandments with thee; so that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding ... ” (Prov. 2:1-21My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee; 2So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; (Proverbs 2:1‑2)) Four verbs are used here to describe the reading of the Word with purpose and conviction. These four words do not describe a casual reading of the Scriptures; they imply a diligent organized study.
There are a number of reasons why the Christian should read his Bible. The pre-eminent reason is to learn more of Christ. “Search the Scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of Me (John 5:3939Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me. (John 5:39), Luke 24:25-27, 4425Then he said unto them, O fools, and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken: 26Ought not Christ to have suffered these things, and to enter into his glory? 27And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded unto them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself. (Luke 24:25‑27)
44And he said unto them, These are the words which I spake unto you, while I was yet with you, that all things must be fulfilled, which were written in the law of Moses, and in the prophets, and in the psalms, concerning me. (Luke 24:44)). He is the theme of all Scripture. When God wrote the Scriptures by the Holy Spirit, He had His Son before Him; and He has ordained it that if we are going to get a blessing from reading the Scriptures then we must have Him before us too! It will result in great joy (Jer. 15:1616Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O Lord God of hosts. (Jeremiah 15:16); Psa. 119:162162I rejoice at thy word, as one that findeth great spoil. (Psalm 119:162)).
A Christian also reads his Bible to get light and guidance for his pathway, whereby he is kept from the designs of the destroyer (2 Tim. 3:1515And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. (2 Timothy 3:15); Psa. 17:44Concerning the works of men, by the word of thy lips I have kept me from the paths of the destroyer. (Psalm 17:4); Psa. 19:77The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple. (Psalm 19:7); Psa. 119:105, 130105NUN. Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalm 119:105)
130The entrance of thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple. (Psalm 119:130); 2 Kings 6:8-128Then the king of Syria warred against Israel, and took counsel with his servants, saying, In such and such a place shall be my camp. 9And the man of God sent unto the king of Israel, saying, Beware that thou pass not such a place; for thither the Syrians are come down. 10And the king of Israel sent to the place which the man of God told him and warned him of, and saved himself there, not once nor twice. 11Therefore the heart of the king of Syria was sore troubled for this thing; and he called his servants, and said unto them, Will ye not show me which of us is for the king of Israel? 12And one of his servants said, None, my lord, O king: but Elisha, the prophet that is in Israel, telleth the king of Israel the words that thou speakest in thy bedchamber. (2 Kings 6:8‑12)).
He also reads the Bible to learn of his spiritual blessings, which are in Christ, whereupon he is built up and established in the most holy faith (Acts 20:3232And now, brethren, I commend you to God, and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up, and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctified. (Acts 20:32); Rom. 16:25-2625Now to him that is of power to stablish you according to my gospel, and the preaching of Jesus Christ, according to the revelation of the mystery, which was kept secret since the world began, 26But now is made manifest, and by the scriptures of the prophets, according to the commandment of the everlasting God, made known to all nations for the obedience of faith: (Romans 16:25‑26); Jude 2020But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost, (Jude 20)).
He reads to learn of future events, whereby he is instructed in God’s purpose to glorify His Son in the world to come, in two spheres: in heaven and in earth (2 Peter 1:19-2119We have also a more sure word of prophecy; whereunto ye do well that ye take heed, as unto a light that shineth in a dark place, until the day dawn, and the day star arise in your hearts: 20Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation. 21For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost. (2 Peter 1:19‑21); Rev. 1:1-31The Revelation of Jesus Christ, which God gave unto him, to show unto his servants things which must shortly come to pass; and he sent and signified it by his angel unto his servant John: 2Who bare record of the word of God, and of the testimony of Jesus Christ, and of all things that he saw. 3Blessed is he that readeth, and they that hear the words of this prophecy, and keep those things which are written therein: for the time is at hand. (Revelation 1:1‑3); Eph. 1:1010That in the dispensation of the fulness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him: (Ephesians 1:10)).
Earnest Prayer
(Vss. 3-5)
The parental exhortation goes on; “Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; if thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; then shalt thou understand the fear of the LORD, and find the knowledge of God” (Prov. 2:3-53Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; 4If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; 5Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God. (Proverbs 2:3‑5)). Four more verbs are used here to describe earnest prayer. These four words go beyond merely “saying” prayers. Prayer is reverently talking to the Lord Jesus and God the Father (1 Tim. 4:55For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer. (1 Timothy 4:5) – J. N. Darby Trans.). Every Christian should have a ready rapport with the Lord.
He prays (intercedes) for others (1 Tim. 2:11I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; (1 Timothy 2:1), Col. 4:33Withal praying also for us, that God would open unto us a door of utterance, to speak the mystery of Christ, for which I am also in bonds: (Colossians 4:3)). He brings the many needs of those in the world, and among his brethren, to the Lord, asking Him to help them in their specific needs.
A Christian prays to petition the Lord for the things that he has need of in his own life (John 14:13-14, 16:23-24; 1 John 3:22, 5:14-15).
Responsibility
(Vs. 6)
The reading of the Scriptures and prayer go together—you can’t really separate them. Notice, both things are based on the conditional word, “if” (vss. 1, 3). This shows that we are responsible to do these things. Godly parents will seek to bring the Word of God before their families when they are young by having family Bible readings, etc. But the real objective in it is that, as the children grow, they will take hold and read and pray on their own. When they are young, the parents do it with them as sort of a support system, but in time they should begin gleaning something from the Word themselves. It is a particular joy to every parent when they see the young ones in their family taking hold of the Word and reading it for themselves. The great profit in diligent reading and earnest prayer is that we gain “wisdom,” “knowledge,” and “understanding” directly from the hand of the Lord (vs. 6).
Walking in The Truth
(Vss. 7-9)
Then, there is something more added in verses 7-9; the need for walking in the truth learned. “He layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous: He is a buckler to them that walk uprightly. He keepeth the paths of judgment, and preserveth the way of His saints. Then shalt thou understand righteousness, and judgment, and equity; yea, every good path.” The practise of what we learn in the Word is important for spiritual progress in our lives. Some do not appear to grow because they will not put into practise the truth they know. There are additional promises here for the one who walks in (practises) the truth. He will gain “righteousness, and judgment, and equity.”
We have, then, in the first nine verses of this chapter reading, prayer and walking in the truth. These things are the believer’s spiritual lifeline. The Christian who neglects his Bible and does not concern himself with prayer is headed for a rough time in life. Moreover, if we do not put into practise what we have learned, we will not be kept. The mere knowledge of truth will not preserve us in the path! These are solemn and serious things to consider.
Three “Daily” Things
We are to cry out to the Lord in prayer “daily” (Ps. 86:1-3).
Two Enemies of the Young Man
The latter half of chapter 2 presents two real dangers in the path. They are personified in “the evil man”—representing secular influences (vs. 12), and “the strange woman”—representing religious influences (vs. 16). The promise to the one who implements the reading of the Scriptures, prayer, and the practising of the truth in their lives is that he will gain:
“Wisdom,” “knowledge,” “understanding,” “righteousness,” “judgment,” and “equity” (vs. 5-9).
Personal joy and happiness—it is “pleasant unto thy soul” (vs. 10).
Moral and spiritual safeguard—“to deliver thee from the evil man” (vss. 12-15) and “to deliver thee from the strange woman” (vss. 16-22).
4) Trusting & Honouring the Lord
(Chapter 3)
(Vss. 1-4)
The next lesson (Prov. 3:1-101My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments: 2For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee. 3Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: 4So shalt thou find favor and good understanding in the sight of God and man. 5Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. 7Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil. 8It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. 9Honor the Lord with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: 10So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine. (Proverbs 3:1‑10)) revolves around learning to trust and honour the Lord in the practical matters of our lives. The son is told, first, not to go back on what he has gained thus far. “My son, forget not my law [teaching]; but let thine heart keep My commandments:” for length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee. Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: so shalt thou find favour and good understanding [success] in the sight of God and man (vss. 1-4). It is important that we walk in what we’ve learned and not allow ourselves to regress (Phil. 3:1616Nevertheless, whereto we have already attained, let us walk by the same rule, let us mind the same thing. (Philippians 3:16)). The Lord will give us more light for the path as we go on with Him.
(Vss. 5-6)
The son is exhorted, “Trust [confide] in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct [make plain] thy paths” (vss. 5-6). Confidence in the Lord comes from obedience. If one has been applying the truth that he or she has learned in the previous lesson, they will have confidence to trust the Lord in the matters of life. The better we know Him, the more we will trust Him. The meaning of the word “trust” has the thought of confiding (J. N. Darby Trans.). Confiding in the Lord is one of four things that Solomon indicates that are necessary for a happy life. They are:
(Vss. 7-8)
The opposite of trusting the Lord is trusting in ourselves, which is self-confidence. To “lean” upon our “own understanding” is a real danger. The young man, therefore, is exhorted: “Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones” (vss. 7-8). We are warned later in the book that a fool trusts in his own heart (Prov. 28:2626He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool: but whoso walketh wisely, he shall be delivered. (Proverbs 28:26)).
(Vss. 9-10)
In addition to trusting the Lord is honouring the Lord in our lives. “Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the first-fruits of all thine increase: so shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine” (Vss. .9-10). All we have belongs to Him, but we are tested as to the reality of it when the Lord allows a little of this world’s goods to come into our hands. Will we use it for Him or for ourselves? It is our privilege to choose a modest standard of living for ourselves, and to put everything over into supporting of the testimony of the Lord. In this way we honour the Lord with our substance. This refers to giving the Lord His rightful due in our lives. It also has to do with our stewardship of His possessions because “the earth is the LORD’S, and the fullness thereof” (Psa. 24:11<<A Psalm of David.>> The earth is the Lord's, and the fulness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein. (Psalm 24:1)). We mustn’t think that only a mature adult should give the Lord His rightful due. There is something beautiful in a young person trusting the Lord and putting Him first in his or her life.
The Israelite who gave to the Lord what was due to Him, was promised a return that was greater than what he gave. While the Christian’s blessings are spiritual and heavenly, we believe that the Lord is still no man’s debtor—He will not be out-given by His people. If we give what we have to the Lord’s interests, He will not let us suffer loss. H. A. Ironside noted, “Many a saint goes on in comparative poverty because of his indifference to the principle here laid down.”
5) Profiting From the Disciplines of the Lord
(Vss. 11-12)
The son is instructed next as to God’s purpose in disciplining His children. “My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of His correction: for whom the LORD loveth He correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth” (Prov. 3:11-1211My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction: 12For whom the Lord loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth. (Proverbs 3:11‑12)). Simply put, God is training His people to be more like His Son in their character and ways. Since there are many things in each one of us (attitudes, etc.) that are not like the Lord Jesus, God will use the pressures of life—the trials, sorrows and difficulties, etc., to work those things out of us.
Everyone who is in the family of God experiences these disciplines from the Lord. It is a family matter with our God. Elihu aptly said, “Who teacheth like Him?” (Job 36:2222Behold, God exalteth by his power: who teacheth like him? (Job 36:22)) Hebrews 12:99Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? (Hebrews 12:9) says that He is “the Father of [human] spirits,” in the sense that He is training our spirits in His school. The Lord never enjoys causing pain to anyone, but He knows it is necessary sometimes for the formation of our character. “He doth not afflict willingly nor grieve the children of men” (Lam. 3:3333For he doth not afflict willingly nor grieve the children of men. (Lamentations 3:33)). We can be assured that He will only allow things in our lives that are for our ultimate good. He is aiming at one thing—the forming of our spirits and the moulding of our characters into the image of His Son (Rom. 8:2929For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. (Romans 8:29)).
The son is instructed to take everything that comes into his life as something that the Lord has to say to him. He is warned of a common tendency with many of us—to react wrongly to the things that God allows. Firstly, he is not to “despise” it (Prov. 3:1111My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction: (Proverbs 3:11)), which is to disregard or rebel against the trials that come into our lives. A person can put a bold face on and shrug things off, not recognizing the hand of the Lord in it; and thus, he’ll get no profit from it. Secondly, the son is not to get “weary” of it (vs. 11). This speaks of getting discouraged by what the Lord sends in our lives, and thus, losing heart and giving up. If he takes that attitude toward the trials of life, he will not get any profit from the discipline of the Lord. The writer of Hebrews quotes this passage in the 12th chapter and then adds that the only proper attitude to take in the trials of life is to be “exercised thereby” (Heb. 12:1111Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. (Hebrews 12:11)). When we are exercised, it will bring forth “the peaceable fruit of righteousness” in our lives.
Various Kinds of Discipline
Let us remember that not all discipline is punishment. This is a common misunderstanding. There are different kinds of discipline in the school of God sent for different purposes:
Preventive Discipline—sent to keep us humble and thereby preserved from falling (2 Cor. 12:7-107And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. 8For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. 9And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong. (2 Corinthians 12:7‑10)).
Purgative Discipline—sent to remove character traits that hinder the expression of Christ coming out in us clearly (Psa. 139:33Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways. (Psalm 139:3); Prov. 25:44Take away the dross from the silver, and there shall come forth a vessel for the finer. (Proverbs 25:4); Jer. 48:1111Moab hath been at ease from his youth, and he hath settled on his lees, and hath not been emptied from vessel to vessel, neither hath he gone into captivity: therefore his taste remained in him, and his scent is not changed. (Jeremiah 48:11); Mal. 3:3-43And he shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver: and he shall purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver, that they may offer unto the Lord an offering in righteousness. 4Then shall the offering of Judah and Jerusalem be pleasant unto the Lord, as in the days of old, and as in former years. (Malachi 3:3‑4)). The result is that there is “much fruit” produced in our lives (John 15:1-61I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman. 2Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he taketh away: and every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth it, that it may bring forth more fruit. 3Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. 4Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. 5I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing. 6If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned. (John 15:1‑6)).
If we are not walking in a path of positive disobedience, the discipline that we experience in our lives is not punishment, but rather, character building. However, if we are walking in a path of disobedience and we rebel under the disciplines of the Lord, we’ll surely miss the good that He has to teach us in it. By being “exercised” by the things the Lord allows in our lives, we gain morally and spiritually. “Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding” (Prov. 3:1313Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. (Proverbs 3:13)). Happiness (mentioned twice) is one great result of acquiring wisdom through discipline. The value of getting wisdom in this way is stressed in verses 14-20.
6) Building Relationships
(Vss. 21-23)
The son is again exhorted to not let slip what he has learned thus far. “My son, let not them depart from thine eyes: keep sound wisdom and discretion: so shall they be life unto thy soul, and grace to thy neck. Then shalt thou walk in thy way safely, and thy foot shall not stumble” (Prov. 3:21-2321My son, let not them depart from thine eyes: keep sound wisdom and discretion: 22So shall they be life unto thy soul, and grace to thy neck. 23Then shalt thou walk in thy way safely, and thy foot shall not stumble. (Proverbs 3:21‑23)).
(Vss. 25-35)
In verses 25-35, he is shown that wisdom is valuable in building relationships in life. Some people have no difficulty making friends, while others seem to struggle with it. The reason, oftentimes, lies in what is taught in this lesson. Essentially, friendships are made by right behaviour toward others. The young man, therefore, is given some guiding principles that will help him in building good friendships in his life.
Strong Confidence in The Lord
(Vss. 25-26)
The first thing he is to have is strong confidence in the Lord. “Be not afraid of sudden fear, neither of the desolation of the wicked, when it cometh. For the LORD shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken” (Prov. 3:25-2625Be not afraid of sudden fear, neither of the desolation of the wicked, when it cometh. 26For the Lord shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken. (Proverbs 3:25‑26)). If we know the Lord and walk with confidence in Him, it will be evident. It is an admirable quality—something that people appreciate. This is not to be confused with self-confidence, which is the working of pride in the flesh (Prov. 3:77Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil. (Proverbs 3:7)). This that we speak of is a quiet confidence that comes through knowing and walking with the Lord. A person marked by such a quality will be less inclined to walk before his peers, seeking their approval—and that is attractive.
The Lord said to Abram, “Walk before Me, and be thou perfect” (Gen. 17:11And when Abram was ninety years old and nine, the Lord appeared to Abram, and said unto him, I am the Almighty God; walk before me, and be thou perfect. (Genesis 17:1)). On the contrary, we are often inclined to walk before our fellow man, and that can be a snare (Prov. 29:2525The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe. (Proverbs 29:25)). A person who is affected by public opinion and the ways and styles of the world usually lacks confidence in the Lord. On the other hand, a person who has quiet confidence in the Lord exudes something that is attractive and desirable.
“Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it” (Prov. 3:2727Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it. (Proverbs 3:27)). The young man is exhorted to do good to others at every opportunity. A person that is marked by acts of kindness will be well thought of and liked. Doing good would include being free with our praise of others in whatever qualities and successes they have. (We are not speaking here of flattery, which only spreads a net for a person’s feet – Prov. 29:55A man that flattereth his neighbor spreadeth a net for his feet. (Proverbs 29:5)).
“Say not unto thy neighbour, Go, and come again, and to morrow I will give; when thou hast it by thee” (Prov. 3:2828Say not unto thy neighbor, Go, and come again, and to morrow I will give; when thou hast it by thee. (Proverbs 3:28)). Here, the young man is encouraged not to be tight and stingy with money. This is another thing that will help to gain the respect of others. The person who is happy to pay for treats, etc. will be well liked. Generosity is an admirable trait.
“Devise not evil against thy neighbour, seeing he dwelleth securely by thee” (Prov. 3:2929Devise not evil against thy neighbor, seeing he dwelleth securely by thee. (Proverbs 3:29)). The son is exhorted to be careful not to hurt anyone. This could be done by what we say as well as by what we do. We can easily offend and hurt people’s feelings by not being careful with our words. If a person is in the habit of putting people down, which often stems from personal insecurity, he cannot expect to have many friends. On the other hand, the person who is marked by being careful in this regard will win the confidence of many.
“Strive not with a man without cause, if he have done thee no harm” (Prov. 3:3030Strive not with a man without cause, if he have done thee no harm. (Proverbs 3:30)). The young man is counselled to be careful about causing strife. We are told elsewhere that a person who is known by contention has a proud heart (Prov. 28:2525He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the Lord shall be made fat. (Proverbs 28:25)). Some people are characterized by arguing, and it spoils their whole personality. After a while, they become known as, “So and so loves an argument ... ” Argumentative people rarely have many friends. On the other hand, if we learn to be agreeable among our comrades, we will be appreciated. Asher was told to dip his “foot in oil,” and he would be “acceptable” to his brethren (Deut. 33:2424And of Asher he said, Let Asher be blessed with children; let him be acceptable to his brethren, and let him dip his foot in oil. (Deuteronomy 33:24)). Since oil is a figure of the Holy Spirit, this speaks of someone walking in the Spirit. It’s essential for getting along with people.
“Envy thou not the oppressor, and choose none of his ways. For the froward is abomination to the LORD: but His secret is with the righteous” (Prov. 3:31-3231Envy thou not the oppressor, and choose none of his ways. 32For the froward is abomination to the Lord: but his secret is with the righteous. (Proverbs 3:31‑32)). Here he is warned to not be over-bearing and oppressive toward others. It will only produce a negative effect of repelling people.
Lastly, the son is encouraged to walk in lowliness. “The curse of the LORD is in the house of the wicked: but He blesseth the habitation of the just. Surely He scorneth the scorners: but He giveth grace unto the lowly” (Prov. 3:33-3433The curse of the Lord is in the house of the wicked: but he blesseth the habitation of the just. 34Surely he scorneth the scorners: but he giveth grace unto the lowly. (Proverbs 3:33‑34)). People like a lowly person. Our Lord Jesus was marked by it (Matt. 11:2929Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. (Matthew 11:29)). His hand will be upon the lowly for blessing in building relationships with others, but it will be against those who are not characterized by the principles of this lesson.
(Chapter 4)
(Vss. 1-9)
The first part of chapter 4, apparently, belongs to this same subject. The young man is reminded that the practical truth that he is being taught is what was passed down from previous generations (Prov. 13:2222A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just. (Proverbs 13:22)). He is to prize it, and not “forget” it (Prov. 4:1-91Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. 2For I give you good doctrine, forsake ye not my law. 3For I was my father's son, tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother. 4He taught me also, and said unto me, Let thine heart retain my words: keep my commandments, and live. 5Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth. 6Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee. 7Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. 8Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honor, when thou dost embrace her. 9She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee. (Proverbs 4:1‑9)).
7) Divine Guidance in the Path
(Vss. 10-11)
As young people grow, they tend to think that they no longer need to hear their parents’ advice. Having acquired some knowledge and wisdom of their own they are inclined to think that they are sufficient for the various challenges of life. The parents of this young man encourage him to keep his ears open to their counsel. “Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; and the years of thy life shall be many” (Prov. 4:1010Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; and the years of thy life shall be many. (Proverbs 4:10)). We are never too old to receive help and advice. The young man has made a good start, having learned some important things. “I have taught thee in the way of wisdom; I have led thee in right paths” (Prov. 4:1111I have taught thee in the way of wisdom; I have led thee in right paths. (Proverbs 4:11)). Now he must continue in them.
(Vs. 12)
He has had guidance from his parents in his early life, but, as he grows older, he must learn to look to the Lord for guidance in the path, because his parents will not always be there. Therefore, the subject of this lesson is looking to the Lord for direction in the path. The 12th verse is best rendered from the Syriac version. It says, “When thou goest, I will open up the way before thee; when thou runnest, thou shalt not stumble.” This shows that the Lord wants to guide us in the path. Parents can seek to guide their young, and this is good, but there comes a time when they have to look to the Lord for guidance themselves.
The Greatest Decisions in Life
Strange as it is, when a person is young and has the least amount of wisdom and experience, he is called upon to make the greatest decisions of his life! The most important decisions that we make—ones that often affect the rest of our lives—are usually made in youth. And the decisions we make in youth have a part in shaping our character for life. Some examples are:
Receiving Christ as our Saviour.
Surrendering our life to His Lordship.
The Christian fellowship where we worship.
Who we will marry.
The secular employment we will be engaged in.
Where we will live.
The kind of companions we will associate with.
Four Main Ways the Lord Guides
A) Through Having a Sense of the Lord’s Presence with us—Communion
(Ex. 33:13-1513Now therefore, I pray thee, if I have found grace in thy sight, show me now thy way, that I may know thee, that I may find grace in thy sight: and consider that this nation is thy people. 14And he said, My presence shall go with thee, and I will give thee rest. 15And he said unto him, If thy presence go not with me, carry us not up hence. (Exodus 33:13‑15); Psa. 32:88I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. (Psalm 32:8)). We shouldn’t want to do anything or go anywhere in this world if we can’t have a sense of the presence of the Lord with us. This has to do with having a peace in our souls—something that every Christian should have in his life that naturally comes from walking with the Lord. Colossians 3:1515And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. (Colossians 3:15) says, “Let the peace of God rule in your hearts.” We should never let anything come into our lives that would disturb that peace. Since the normal Christian state is to walk in fellowship with the Lord as a habitual thing, if we take a wrong step we will immediately feel that something is out of order—in other words, we’ll lose our peace. It’s then that we must retrace our steps and seek to stay in the path of doing the will of God. In this way, the Lord guides us by giving us a sense of His presence. If a person does not normally walk in fellowship with the Lord, then this wonderful means of being guided by Him will not be known, and that’s a sad thing. There is simply no substitute for communion. Let’s not take ONE STEP in our lives if it means that we’ll lose the sense of the Lord’s presence.
B) Through Principles in the Word of God
(Psa. 119:105, 130105NUN. Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalm 119:105)
130The entrance of thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple. (Psalm 119:130)). God has given us another way in which He guides us—through His Word. We can ask ourselves concerning a particular step that we are about to make, “Does this coincide with the Word of God? Is there a principle in the Word that would support this?” God’s Word outlines a safe and happy path for us through this world. As we gather Scriptural principles, and put them into our treasury, we will be able to call upon them in a time of need, and thus, we will be guided.
C) Through Providence
(Prov. 16:99A man's heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps. (Proverbs 16:9); Jer. 10:2323O Lord, I know that the way of man is not in himself: it is not in man that walketh to direct his steps. (Jeremiah 10:23)). Providence is God working behind the scenes of life. Since the Lord has all power in heaven and earth at His disposal, He can, and does, work in all the scenes of everyday life. Nothing happens by chance. It says in Lamentations 3:3737Who is he that saith, and it cometh to pass, when the Lord commandeth it not? (Lamentations 3:37), “Who is he that saith, and it cometh to pass, when the Lord commandeth it not?” Nothing can happen without Him appointing it. This is His divine providence. He guides us by certain things that He allows to come into our lives, whereby we discern the will of God.
We have to be careful when being guided by circumstances, because we can be deceived. The danger is in trying to interpret circumstances when we are not in communion. Really, in each way that God guides us we need to be in communion with the Lord to discern His mind. If we’re not, we’ll think we have His mind when we don’t, and we’ll misinterpret the situation.
D) Through Prophets or Prophetesses
(Prov. 11:14; 12:1514Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety. (Proverbs 11:14)
15The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise. (Proverbs 12:15)). Another way in which the Lord guides us is through the mouth of prophets or prophetesses. God still use prophets today. He uses our brethren to speak His mind to us. One of our brethren may come to us with the Word of God in his or her mouth and give us some godly counsel—whether solicited or unsolicited. They are acting as a prophet or prophetess, and we need to hear them. The Apostle Paul said, “Despise not prophesyings” (1 Thess. 5:2020Despise not prophesyings. (1 Thessalonians 5:20)).
This being the case, we would urge you to listen to those who have some knowledge of God’s ways, who have walked with the Lord and have experience in the path. They can give you some good counsel in regard to the great decisions of life. You have to be careful, of course, because there is a lot of free advice going around. If you listen to everyone you may pick up some bad advice.
Two Paths
(Vss. 14-18)
In chapter 4:14-18 there are two paths that stretch out before the young man—“the path of the wicked,” and “the path of the just.” He is counselled, of course, not to go in the way of wicked and evil men, but rather, to avoid and pass away from it entirely (vss. 14-17). If he is dependent upon the Lord, he will not get into the path of the wicked, for the Lord will keep the feet of His saints (1 Sam. 2:99He will keep the feet of his saints, and the wicked shall be silent in darkness; for by strength shall no man prevail. (1 Samuel 2:9)).
8) The Importance of Guarding Our Hearts
(Vss. 20-23)
Again, the son is exhorted to not let slip what he has learned already, but rather to add to it. “My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh. Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Prov. 4:20-2320My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. 21Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. 22For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh. 23Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. (Proverbs 4:20‑23)).
Since there is a danger of the heart being led away, this next lesson has to do with guarding the heart “with all diligence.” The young man is shown that a person’s whole life will be affected by what goes on in his “heart.” Verses 24-27 show how the “mouth,” the “eyes” and the “feet” will naturally follow what the heart is occupied with. Oftentimes we will hear people say, “Oh, I love that ... .” However, we must be careful what we allow ourselves to love, because our hearts could be drawn away by it.
Decisions in life are not to be made with the heart (the seat of the emotions and desires), but rather, with our spirit (the God-conscious intelligent part of our being). When the emotions and affections get involved in the decision-making processes of life, we will be misled. When something other than Christ has captured the heart, it clouds a person’s thinking. When the heart is affected, the mind can be deceived into believing that it made the right decision. The person will manufacture all kinds of reasons as to why he must have or do something. Therefore, if we are going to be kept, our spirits must take the lead in subjection to the principles of the Word. The Apostle Paul said: “And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Thess. 5:2323And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Thessalonians 5:23)).
9) Marital Joy & Faithfulness
(Chapter 5)
The subject of marriage is brought before the young man in chapter 5. Since somewhere around 50% of marriages in America end in divorce today, instruction in this area is greatly needed. The previous lesson on guidance from the Lord (chap. 4:20-27) is well placed; never could it be more important than when looking for a wife.
It is not wrong to want to be married, for the Bible says, “Marriage is honourable” (Heb. 13:44Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)). Neither is it wrong for a young man to look for a wife, for it also says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing” (Prov. 18:22; 31:1022Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22)
10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10); Gen. 2410And the servant took ten camels of the camels of his master, and departed; for all the goods of his master were in his hand: and he arose, and went to Mesopotamia, unto the city of Nahor. (Genesis 24:10)). However, thousands of well-meaning young people have brought sorrow and heartbreak into their lives by taking up with the wrong person. With this in mind, the young man is taught about what to look for in a potential wife, and what to watch out for.
(Vss. 1-5)
“My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: that thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: but her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell” (Prov. 5:1-51My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: 2That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge. 3For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: 4But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. 5Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. (Proverbs 5:1‑5)).
The Wrong Kind of Wife
(Vss. 3-13)
The chapter describes two women—the wrong one (vss. 3-13), and the right one (vss. 15-21). One is called the “strange woman” (vs. 3) and the other is called the “wife of thy youth” (vs. 18). The strange woman is mentioned five times in this section of Proverbs, emphasizing the importance of avoiding her. A composite look at her is as follows:
She is loud and stubborn—not characterized by submission (Prov. 7:1111(She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: (Proverbs 7:11) – “unmanageable,” 9:13 – “noisy” J. N. Darby Trans.)
She is not an industrious girl. Working with her hands is never mentioned, whereas the hands of the virtuous woman are mentioned seven times (Prov. 31:10-3110Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 14She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. 15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. 16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. 17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. 18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. 19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. 20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. 21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. 23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. 24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 25Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. 30Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. 31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:10‑31)). She is characterized as being a sitter (Prov. 9:1414For she sitteth at the door of her house, on a seat in the high places of the city, (Proverbs 9:14)).
An important thing in finding a helpmate is knowing what to look for in a girl. Every person gives an index as to his or her character. We must, therefore, learn how to read that index. By pointing out the features of the girl that the young man must stay away from, his powers of discernment are sharpened.
A Solemn Reality
(Vs. 14)
It is interesting that between the two women in this chapter is the solemn reality, “I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly” (Prov. 5:1414I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly. (Proverbs 5:14)). This shows that you could easily run into the wrong person right in the congregation of the saints! You have no guarantee that because a girl comes to the Bible meetings that she automatically would be a good wife.
The Key to a Successful Marriage
(Vss. 15-21)
Then in the latter part of the chapter the young man is instructed about the relationship that should exist between a husband and wife (Prov. 5:15-2115Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. 16Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. 17Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee. 18Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? 21For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings. (Proverbs 5:15‑21)). Holiness and faithfulness are insisted upon as the key to a successful marriage (Prov. 5:15-2115Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. 16Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. 17Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee. 18Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? 21For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings. (Proverbs 5:15‑21)). Of course, the Lord must first be the object of both persons. The things that ought to mark the “wife of thy youth” are:
She has a meek & quiet spirit (1 Pet. 3:3-63Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. (1 Peter 3:3‑6)).
She is not occupied with decking herself out, but she knows how to look good (1 Tim. 2:9-10; 19In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. (1 Timothy 2:9‑10)
9Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, 10For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine; (1 Timothy 1:9‑10) Pet. 3:3-5; Prov. 31:2222She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. (Proverbs 31:22)).
The exercise for the young man is to learn how to identify a godly girl from a worldly girl—someone that will be a help in his life from one that won’t. This exercise of noting certain desirable and undesirable features in a girl can be engaged in long before a young man is married. Thus, our powers of discernment will be sharpened.
Warning—Unfaithfulness in Marriage
(Vss. 22-23)
10) How to Avoid Financial Ruin
(Chapter 6)
As the young man grows older and prepares to enter the work force where he’ll earn his living, he is given some helpful principles on how to handle money. We have never met a young person who doesn’t want to be successful, but if it is to be so, he must have some sound principles regarding the handling of money. In this chapter (6) he is warned of three things that he is to particularly avoid that could bring him to financial ruin.
Avoid the Entanglement of Co-signing a Debt
(Vss. 1-5)
“My son, if thou be surety for thy friend, if thou hast stricken thy hand with a stranger, thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth. Do this now, my son, and deliver thyself, when thou art come into the hand of thy friend; go, humble thyself, and make sure [be urgent with] thy friend. Give not sleep to thine eyes, nor slumber to thine eyelids. Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler” (Prov. 6:1-51My son, if thou be surety for thy friend, if thou hast stricken thy hand with a stranger, 2Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth. 3Do this now, my son, and deliver thyself, when thou art come into the hand of thy friend; go, humble thyself, and make sure thy friend. 4Give not sleep to thine eyes, nor slumber to thine eyelids. 5Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler. (Proverbs 6:1‑5)).
Firstly, he is instructed to keep out of debt—whether it’s a personal debt or being liable for someone else’s debt. (A “surety” is making oneself liable for another person’s debt.) “Thy friend” in this situation could be your neighbour who wants you to co-sign for him in some purchase he wants to make. The “stranger” would be the loans company to whom you would have to put up your guarantee by giving your signature. If the young man should ever get into such a situation, he is to extricate himself as fast as possible. The lesson here is crystal clear: never make oneself personally liable for any indebtedness, whether it is your own or somebody else’s.
Many have come to financial ruin by getting into the “credit trap.” One of the most dangerous “traps” is a credit card. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have one, but we need to understand that the interest costs and penalties can add up faster than you can imagine. Credit cards are handy for convenience and emergencies, but one has to be careful to avoid the pitfall of “plastic money.” It is remarkable that all references in Scripture to borrowing money are negative! Many people get themselves into foolish financial situations by leaning on the credit system of this world when they are young, and before they’ve barely gotten started in their lives they’re looking at years of work to free themselves of entanglements.
Avoid Spending Everything You Earn
(Vss. 6-8)
Closely related to incurring debt is spending everything one earns. This, of course, is not advisable and demonstrates a great lack of self-control. To teach the lesson of saving what one works for, the young man is directed to the ant. “Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise: which having no guide, overseer, or ruler, provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest” (Prov. 6:6-86Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise: 7Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler, 8Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest. (Proverbs 6:6‑8)). The two outstanding marks of the ant are industry and storing what she has worked for. There are times when making money may be more favourable (i.e. “the summer” and “the harvest”), and there will be times when it will be more difficult (winter). The ant works hard in the good times and saves in view of the other times.
Hard Work and Saving Are Necessary
(Vss. 9-11)
To save money requires self-discipline. The time to begin exercising this kind of self-control is in youth. Many people waste half of their lives before they wake up and start saving, but by then much valuable time has been wasted. If a person saved $1 a day (the money you use to buy your afternoon soft drink) at 8% interest, over their lifespan of approximately 70 years they would have $1,190,012.—over a million dollars! The solemn reality here is that if you are already 20 years old, you’ve lost 20 years, and have only 50 years left, if the Lord does not come. Saving $1 a day for 50 years at 8% interest gives you $237,952. That’s a big difference! If, however, you save $5 per day ($150 per month) at 6% interest over 50 years, you would have $1,949,762—almost two million dollars!! And, in saving as little as $5 per day, in most cases, a person would still have plenty to use for the Lord and for others (Gal. 6:1010As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith. (Galatians 6:10)). Our object here is not to bestir greed and covetousness in people, but to make a point of being careful with our money. The obvious message is: The sooner one gets started the better.
Avoid the Swindler
(Vss. 12-15)
Being deceived by a swindler—“a man of Belial”—is another thing that can bring a person to financial ruin. We have to be careful in all of our dealings with the men of this world, whether it is in business or in our private dealings. The young man is given a description of the character of such a person that he is to avoid (Prov. 6:12-1512A naughty person, a wicked man, walketh with a froward mouth. 13He winketh with his eyes, he speaketh with his feet, he teacheth with his fingers; 14Frowardness is in his heart, he deviseth mischief continually; he soweth discord. 15Therefore shall his calamity come suddenly; suddenly shall he be broken without remedy. (Proverbs 6:12‑15)). As he is to discern the character of an evil woman, he must know how to read the index to the character of an evil man. It is clear from Scripture that we are not to become a partner in business (strike hands) with an unbeliever or someone who is not living to please the Lord (2 Cor. 6:14-1714Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, (2 Corinthians 6:14‑17)). Such entanglements can lead to much sorrow, and even financial ruin.
Seven Deadly Sins
(Vss. 16-19)
11) The Reality of the Government of God
Sexual Immorality
(Vss. 20-23)
The final two lessons have to do with sexual immorality. The first emphasizes the reality of the governmental judgment of God felt in one’s life. It begins with the father and mother beseeching the young man not to let go of the things they have taught him. “My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law [teaching] of thy mother” (Prov. 6:20-2320My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: 21Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. 22When thou goest, it shall lead thee; when thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; and when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee. 23For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: (Proverbs 6:20‑23)). He is to bind what he has learned upon his “heart” and about his “neck,” and they would “keep” him in the way.
(Vss. 27-29)
If he should forsake their teaching, he is solemnly reminded of the inevitable working of the governmental judgment of God in his life. An encounter with an “evil woman” and the sins of fornication and adultery are shown to have their repercussions in one’s life. “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent” (Prov. 6:27-2927Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? 28Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? 29So he that goeth in to his neighbor's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent. (Proverbs 6:27‑29)). The person who commits adultery lacks sense and destroys [“destroyeth”] himself socially, spiritually and morally, and perhaps, even physically (Prov. 6:3232But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. (Proverbs 6:32)).
The reality of it is that “a wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away” (Prov. 6:3333A wound and dishonor shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. (Proverbs 6:33)).
12) The Folly of Immorality
(Chapter 7)
(Vss. 1-5)
Avoiding Immorality
(Vss. 6-10)
The lesson of avoiding immorality and its seduction is to be learned from the protection of his parents’ home. This is seen in the fact that the young man looks through the “casement” [“lattice”] of the home and observes a foolish young man being seduced by a wicked adulteress—a harlot (Prov. 7:6-106For at the window of my house I looked through my casement, 7And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, 8Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, 9In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: 10And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtile of heart. (Proverbs 7:6‑10)). What we need to know about the world and its wicked ways should be learned within the protection of the household. This shows that one need not go into the world to learn that sin doesn’t pay. This is an example of “the instruction of wisdom” mentioned in chapter 1:3, which has to do with acquiring knowledge through observing the unhappy experiences of others.
The Folly of Immorality Portrayed
(Vss. 10-27)
The folly of immorality is portrayed before the son. It starts with a person being in the wrong place at the wrong time (Prov. 7:7-97And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, 8Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, 9In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: (Proverbs 7:7‑9)). Then follows a vivid account of the way of the harlot, and the shame that comes to the one who is taken in by her (Prov. 7:10-2710And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtile of heart. 11(She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: 12Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) 13So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, 14I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows. 15Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. 16I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt. 17I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. 19For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey: 20He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed. 21With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. 22He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; 23Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life. 24Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. 25Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. 26For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. 27Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death. (Proverbs 7:10‑27)). As the son prepares to leave home, he is left with this solemn warning of the sin of immorality burned into his mind.
The Son Leaves Home With Wisdom
(Chapter 8)
(Vss. 1-21)
In chapters 1-7 we have seen Wisdom prized; now, in chapters 8 and 9 we see Wisdom practised by the young man. The expression, “My son,” no longer appears in this section. The paternal and maternal exhortations cease, but we find that the Wisdom the young man has grown to value stays with him. In this chapter he is seen as having gone forth from his father’s house (where he has had the guidance and instruction of his parents from his earliest days) with Wisdom bound about his neck, guiding, counselling, and keeping him in the path. What a privilege he has had growing up in a godly household with parents who love and care for him and who have instructed him. They have sought to outfit him with all that he would need for life, in things that are moral, spiritual, and temporal. Similarly, there comes a time when every young person leaves his parents’ home to make his way in life (Prov. 8:1-211Doth not wisdom cry? and understanding put forth her voice? 2She standeth in the top of high places, by the way in the places of the paths. 3She crieth at the gates, at the entry of the city, at the coming in at the doors. 4Unto you, O men, I call; and my voice is to the sons of man. 5O ye simple, understand wisdom: and, ye fools, be ye of an understanding heart. 6Hear; for I will speak of excellent things; and the opening of my lips shall be right things. 7For my mouth shall speak truth; and wickedness is an abomination to my lips. 8All the words of my mouth are in righteousness; there is nothing froward or perverse in them. 9They are all plain to him that understandeth, and right to them that find knowledge. 10Receive my instruction, and not silver; and knowledge rather than choice gold. 11For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it. 12I wisdom dwell with prudence, and find out knowledge of witty inventions. 13The fear of the Lord is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate. 14Counsel is mine, and sound wisdom: I am understanding; I have strength. 15By me kings reign, and princes decree justice. 16By me princes rule, and nobles, even all the judges of the earth. 17I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me. 18Riches and honor are with me; yea, durable riches and righteousness. 19My fruit is better than gold, yea, than fine gold; and my revenue than choice silver. 20I lead in the way of righteousness, in the midst of the paths of judgment: 21That I may cause those that love me to inherit substance; and I will fill their treasures. (Proverbs 8:1‑21)).
The time of testing for this young man has come. He is seen at “the crossroads” of life (vss. 2, 20 – J. N. Darby Trans.). A crossroad is the place of decision. The traveler must decide which way to take. But the Wisdom he has learned is there with him helping him make the right choices! Note: the very things that were promised at the commencement of the book (chapter 1:2-4) are seen here in this chapter with the young man! The ten things mentioned in chapter one—“wisdom,” “instruction,” “understanding,” etc. are all here—except “equity” and “discretion.” (It seems that “equity,” which has to do with understanding principles, and “discretion,” which is to do with the thoughtful application of principles, are things that only come with experience, so he could hardly go forth with them at this point in his life.)
Wisdom is the Lord Personified
(Vss. 22-31)
In the latter part of chapter 8 the veil is lifted from Wisdom to indicate that it is the Lord Jesus Christ pre-incarnate—before He became a Man. The New Testament affirms this, referring to Him as the Wisdom of God (1 Cor. 1:24, 3024But unto them which are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God, and the wisdom of God. (1 Corinthians 1:24)
30But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption: (1 Corinthians 1:30)). In this passage, various expressions are used to indicate the glories of the pre-incarnate Christ:
“The LORD possessed Me in the beginning of His way, before His works of old” (Prov. 8:2222The Lord possessed me in the beginning of his way, before his works of old. (Proverbs 8:22)). This is a reference to Christ’s eternal relationship to God as the Son (Psa. 2:77I will declare the decree: the Lord hath said unto me, Thou art my Son; this day have I begotten thee. (Psalm 2:7)). The word “possessed” is used elsewhere for Jehovah’s relationship to the children of Israel as Father, but not in the Christian sense (Deut. 32:66Do ye thus requite the Lord, O foolish people and unwise? is not he thy father that hath bought thee? hath he not made thee, and established thee? (Deuteronomy 32:6); Isa. 63:16; 64:816Doubtless thou art our father, though Abraham be ignorant of us, and Israel acknowledge us not: thou, O Lord, art our father, our redeemer; thy name is from everlasting. (Isaiah 63:16)
8But now, O Lord, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand. (Isaiah 64:8)).
“I was set up [anointed] from everlasting, from the beginning.” (Psa. 8:23) This speaks of His office as Messiah (“the Christ” – John 1:4141He first findeth his own brother Simon, and saith unto him, We have found the Messias, which is, being interpreted, the Christ. (John 1:41)) being from eternity.
“I was daily His delight, rejoicing always before Him.” (Prov. 8:33She crieth at the gates, at the entry of the city, at the coming in at the doors. (Proverbs 8:3)0b). This speaks of Him being the eternal object of His Father’s heart (Jn. 1:14, 18; 17:2414And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth. (John 1:14)
18No man hath seen God at any time; the only begotten Son, which is in the bosom of the Father, he hath declared him. (John 1:18)
24Father, I will that they also, whom thou hast given me, be with me where I am; that they may behold my glory, which thou hast given me: for thou lovedst me before the foundation of the world. (John 17:24)).
(Vss. 32-36)
Wisdom Helps the Young Man Build His Own House
(Chapter 9)
(Vs. 1)
“Wisdom,” in this chapter, changes from the singular to the plural in the original Hebrew. It implies, perhaps, that the young man has found someone to build his home with. It appears that there are now a husband and a wife working together with Wisdom, building their home. They are one with Wisdom in purpose—so much so that they are not directly mentioned. “And a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Eccl. 4:1212And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:12)). While Wisdom helps them build their house, Wisdom is not seen as the head of the home; that is the role of the man (Eph. 5:2323For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (Ephesians 5:23)). Christ is never said to be the head of a Christian’s household.
The first thing we notice is that the house that Wisdom builds has “seven pillars” (Prov. 9:11Wisdom hath builded her house, she hath hewn out her seven pillars: (Proverbs 9:1)). This would indicate that it is a stable home. Mr. Hayhoe suggested the following seven things that would be the pillars of a stable home:
There is mutual love and respect between husband & wife (Eph. 5:22-3022Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (Ephesians 5:22‑30); 1 Cor. 7:3-53Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. (1 Corinthians 7:3‑5)).
(Vs. 2)
The second thing that marks this house is that “she hath slaughtered her slaughtering” (Prov. 9:22She hath killed her beasts; she hath mingled her wine; she hath also furnished her table. (Proverbs 9:2) – W. Kelly’s Trans.). This speaks of the house being filled with the fragrance of Christ and His great sacrifice. The aspect of Christ’s sacrifice here is not so much His making atonement, but His willingness to lay down his life for us (1 John 3:1616Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. (1 John 3:16)). That same self-sacrifice marks this household.
Thirdly, it says, “She hath mingled her wine” (Prov. 9:22She hath killed her beasts; she hath mingled her wine; she hath also furnished her table. (Proverbs 9:2)). Wine is a figure of joy (Psa. 104:1515And wine that maketh glad the heart of man, and oil to make his face to shine, and bread which strengtheneth man's heart. (Psalm 104:15); Judg. 9:1313And the vine said unto them, Should I leave my wine, which cheereth God and man, and go to be promoted over the trees? (Judges 9:13); Luke 10:3434And went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him. (Luke 10:34)). This means that it is a happy home.
A fourth thing is, “She hath furnished [prepared] her table” (Prov. 9:22She hath killed her beasts; she hath mingled her wine; she hath also furnished her table. (Proverbs 9:2)). One prepares a table with food. Christ is the spiritual food of His people (John 6:54-5854Whoso eateth my flesh, and drinketh my blood, hath eternal life; and I will raise him up at the last day. 55For my flesh is meat indeed, and my blood is drink indeed. 56He that eateth my flesh, and drinketh my blood, dwelleth in me, and I in him. 57As the living Father hath sent me, and I live by the Father: so he that eateth me, even he shall live by me. 58This is that bread which came down from heaven: not as your fathers did eat manna, and are dead: he that eateth of this bread shall live for ever. (John 6:54‑58)). It is a house wherein there is spiritual food.
(Vss. 3-5)
A fifth thing that marks this house is hospitality. “She hath sent forth her maidens: she crieth upon the highest places of the city, Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him, Come, eat of my bread, and drink of the wine which I have mingled” (Prov. 9:3-53She hath sent forth her maidens: she crieth upon the highest places of the city, 4Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him, 5Come, eat of my bread, and drink of the wine which I have mingled. (Proverbs 9:3‑5)). This home is open to those who want the truth. It is used to further the things of Christ and for the building up of the Lord’s people. Similarly, our homes are to be for the support of the Christian testimony (1 Cor. 16:15-1615I beseech you, brethren, (ye know the house of Stephanas, that it is the firstfruits of Achaia, and that they have addicted themselves to the ministry of the saints,) 16That ye submit yourselves unto such, and to every one that helpeth with us, and laboreth. (1 Corinthians 16:15‑16)).
(Vs. 6)
A sixth thing that characterizes this house is separation from the world. “Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding” (Prov. 9:66Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding. (Proverbs 9:6)). This home is not open to the “foolish,” the “wicked” and the “scorner.”
(Vss. 10-12)
(Vss. 13-18)
Thus, in this section (chapters 1-9) we have one complete cycle of life of a God-fearing Israelite. A godly father and mother have raised their son (i.e. the next generation) for the Lord, and he, in turn, goes forth and raises his family for the Lord (Prov. 13:2222A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just. (Proverbs 13:22)).