Here we have instruction for the wives. It is a piece of advice directed right to their hearts and souls, though it may often be difficult to carry out. But as is often the case, we need to read the verses that precede the admonition. They give us the key to being able to follow through on this command. Yes, that is what it is, a command!
Verse 19 tells us to be “Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your hearts to the Lord.” That does not mean having the radio on, or even necessarily a CD of good music. There is nothing like a song of praise from our lips and hearts. An older sister once made the comment that she kept a hymn book propped up on her kitchen window sill over her sink so she could sing as she worked there.
Verse 20 says “Giving thanks always for all things.” Not always easy. But a thankful spirit is a prerequisite for our happiness and God’s blessing in our lives.
Verse 21 speaks of “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God”. This is the simple act of putting others before ourselves, and honoring anyone in a position of authority over us.
Having read, digested and walked in verses 19-21, a wife can proceed to verse 22 in the confidence that the Lord will give her the wisdom and grace to carry out the submission that is required.
TC Dec. 2012