1 Corinthians 7:25-4025Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. 32But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. 36But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. 37Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better. 39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God. (1 Corinthians 7:25‑40)
The Apostle returns to the subject of marriage in order to give his own opinion, as having received mercy of the Lord to be faithful, regarding those who had never entered into any relationship with the opposite sex. In the unerring wisdom of God, Paul was given no commandment of the Lord on this subject. You will note that the Apostle was careful to tell us when his own opinions are given; he was inspired to give us his spiritual judgment regarding this matter just as in the 12th verse – “But (as) to the rest speak I, not the Lord,” and we do well to give heed to what he says, as clearly not contrary to the Lord’s mind.
Verse 26: “I think then that this is good, on account of the present necessity, that it is good for a man to remain so as he is” (JND). It is good, on account of what the world is in its opposition to Christianity, to avoid marriage since it has, after all, somewhat the character of settling down in a scene where God has made us strangers and pilgrims (1 Peter 2:1111Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; (1 Peter 2:11)).
Verses 27, 28. There follow further instructions which throw heavenly light on the Christian’s earthly relationships. If bound to a wife, seek not to be loosed; if free from a wife, do not seek one. Marriage is not sinful for either brother or sister; “nevertheless, such shall have trouble” (or tribulation) “in the flesh”, and the Apostle wished that they should be spared this experience. It may be questioned if there ever has been a married couple who from the beginning found themselves in entire accord in all things. No other relationship in life is likely to involve so much of the disclosure of one’s inner self – self-love and self-will are in everyone by nature – and to require so much of Christian grace in one form or another. Sometimes, through in-subjection to the plain words of Scripture on the part of wife or husband (or both), these “troubles” continue through life, instead of the cause being judged, confessed and done away with. And then parenthood brings in a train of responsibility and care; some cares remaining unless or until the parents are given the joy of seeing their children grown to manhood and womanhood and walking in the light of God’s Word. “But this I say, brethren, the time is short” (or straitened, or a constrained one) “for the fashion of this world passeth...
Verses 29, 31. Believers should be expecting the Lord’s coming as an event which may occur at any time. God’s amazing grace has allowed the day of the gospel to lengthen out until nineteen hundred years have elapsed since its beginning, but the Christian who draws his instructions as to the path of life from the Word of God has learned that the coming of the Lord for His heavenly saints is always to be looked upon as an imminent prospect. That that event, which will mark the end of the day of grace, did not take place while you were a stranger to God, is a cause for deep thankfulness, is it not? How much longer have you left to stay on earth? You do not know; nor does any one, but God only. "The time is short”, even though it may sometimes in one’s thoughts seem to be long; let us live in the prospect now before us of being soon with our Saviour and Lord.
In verse 31 “as not abusing it” is really “as not disposing of it as their own” (JND), or “as not using it for themselves”. Many believers have daily contacts with the world, in working to support themselves and their loved ones; they are to remember that their part in it is to serve faithfully in the duties committed to them, – and never to take a place in it that would be out of conformity with the principles of God’s Word.
Verses 32-35. The Apostle wished that the saints should be without care or distraction that would interfere with waiting on the Lord. When married they were concerned with earthly things that in varying measure shut out occupation with and for Christ. If nature’s claims, on the other hand, were refused, they might serve Him without distraction. The wisdom of these counsels of the Apostle is apparent. Doubtless more than one servant of the Lord has been hindered in his path of service by marriage and the bringing up of a family. Happy for him in such circumstances if his wife seeks diligently to become a true “helpmeet” (Gen. 2:1818And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18)) for him. Yet those Scriptures that we have been going over are surely meant for us all who are God’s children by faith in Christ Jesus. Is it not plain that He looks for you and me, dear young Christian, whether married or single, to give Himself the first place in our lives?
Verses 36-38 relate, not to a man’s daughter or ward, but to himself: “But if anyone think that he behaves unseemly to his virginity, if he be beyond the flower of his age, and so it must be, let him do what he will, he does not sin; let them marry. But he who stands firm in his heart, having no need, but has authority over his own will, and has judged this in his heart to keep his own virginity, he does well. So that he that marries, himself does well; and he that does not marry does better” (JND).
Verses 39-40. The words by the law are not in the best copies of the original text; they appear to have been added from Romans 7:22For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. (Romans 7:2). God’s Word does not recognize the easy divorce practices that have been incorporated in many human laws. “A wife is bound for whatever time her husband lives; but if the husband be fallen asleep she is free to be married to whom she will, only in the Lord” (vs. 39, JND). The Apostle is still writing about marriage for believers, and, we may have noticed, he has until this verse said nothing as, to whom a believer should marry. Aptly, this subject is reserved for the close, when it is expressly said that a Christian widow is at liberty to be married “to whom she will”, and immediately it is added, “only in the Lord.”
What is “only in the Lord”? Not far from twenty other passages in Paul’s epistles are at hand to help in the answer to this question. A few of them are: Romans 16:2, 8, 11, 12, 222That ye receive her in the Lord, as becometh saints, and that ye assist her in whatsoever business she hath need of you: for she hath been a succorer of many, and of myself also. (Romans 16:2)
8Greet Amplias my beloved in the Lord. (Romans 16:8)
11Salute Herodion my kinsman. Greet them that be of the household of Narcissus, which are in the Lord. 12Salute Tryphena and Tryphosa, who labor in the Lord. Salute the beloved Persis, which labored much in the Lord. (Romans 16:11‑12)
22I Tertius, who wrote this epistle, salute you in the Lord. (Romans 16:22); 1 Corinthians 16:1919The churches of Asia salute you. Aquila and Priscilla salute you much in the Lord, with the church that is in their house. (1 Corinthians 16:19); Ephesians 6:2121But that ye also may know my affairs, and how I do, Tychicus, a beloved brother and faithful minister in the Lord, shall make known to you all things: (Ephesians 6:21); Colossians 3:1818Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18); Philemon 1:1616Not now as a servant, but above a servant, a brother beloved, specially to me, but how much more unto thee, both in the flesh, and in the Lord? (Philemon 16). “In the Lord” means more, we gather from these Scriptures, than “in Christ” (Rom. 16:77Salute Andronicus and Junia, my kinsmen, and my fellowprisoners, who are of note among the apostles, who also were in Christ before me. (Romans 16:7) and 10) or “in Christ Jesus” (Rom. 8:11There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. (Romans 8:1), Phil. 4:2121Salute every saint in Christ Jesus. The brethren which are with me greet you. (Philippians 4:21)). It refers not so much to all believers, we think, as to those of them whose walk is in subjection to Christ as their Lord; sadly we own that this leaves out many of the dear children of God.
Young Christians, and older ones too, should never lose sight of the truth that God is more interested in their happiness, a great deal more interested in it, than they are apt to think. He has chosen a path for every child of His that will, if there be submission to His guidance, yield the truest happiness in this world as well as in that eternity toward which everyone of us is hurrying. Just as surely as the servant of Abraham was guided by God in finding a wife for Isaac (Gen. 24:2727And he said, Blessed be the Lord God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the Lord led me to the house of my master's brethren. (Genesis 24:27)) – “I being in the way, the Lord led me” – so surely will the Christian who truly waits for God’s direction be guided by Him in the momentous step of marriage.
Alas, many young Christians have stored up for themselves sorrow upon sorrow by entering upon marriages contrary to God’s Word, and it is saddest of all when the heart has become attached to a stranger to His grace. “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols?” (2 Cor. 6:14-1814Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. (2 Corinthians 6:14‑18)).
Verse 40. The Apostle gives his judgment that the Christian widow is happier if she remain unmarried; and none was better qualified than he as a servant of the Lord to speak. We doubt not that in thus expressing himself he was guided by the Holy Spirit.