My judgment is (but I should seek peace, and there is no rule, save that all things be done decently and in order), that young children should be with their parents at the meetings, and that growing girls should be so too. When the boys grow up to a certain size they are better sitting back. If girls are at school or under a governess they can sit with the other scholars as it is only a question of comely protection and shelter which grown boys do not need. But formal rule there is none, decency and order is one.
As regards the second question: The principle of meeting is the unity of the body, so that a person known as a Christian is free to come, only the person who introduces him should have the confidence of the assembly as to his competency to judge of the person he introduces. In London and elsewhere the name of the persons introducing is given out, or if many know him that is mentioned, and they are responsible. Looseness is so prevalent now among the denominations that more care is needed, but I hold that every known Christian has the same title as myself, and membership of an assembly I totally reject. But I do not accept running out at a person's fancy; they may have been sinning or walking disorderly, and a person breaking bread is thereby subject to the discipline of God's house if called for, just as if he had been constantly there.
Nor do I accept any condition from them, as that they arc free to go anywhere; the assembly is to follow God's word, and can bind itself by no conditions, nor do I impose any, because as the assembly, is bound by the word and can accept none, so is the person subject to the discipline of the assembly according to the word. I have never changed my views at all. The practice is more difficult because of the growing looseness in doctrines and practice of all around. But if an assembly refused a person known to be a Christian and blameless because he was not of the assembly, I should not go.
I own no membership but of Christ. An assembly composed, as such, of its members is at once a sect. But the person who brings another is responsible to the assembly, and should mention it, for it is the assembly which is finally responsible, though it may hurt the person who introduces another in the particular case. If it were a young Christian, or one of little maturity and weak in the faith, I should like to know what sure ground there was before allowing him to break bread, on the same principle as in all other cases.
Yours truly in the Lord, .T. N. D.
I'm rich in God's wondrous counsels,
I'm rich in His infinite love;
Rich too, in the work He's wrought for me,
And I'm going to join Him above.
I can afford these things already,
Since all is so settled and sure;
But I cannot afford to be pining,
And thinking that I am poor. T.